Once you’ve decided that you don’t like someone, then however they are is the wrong way for someone to be. And if they were the opposite, that would be the wrong way to be, too. It must be the wrong way, because you don’t like them, so how they are must deserve that disliking.

But, of course, then it isn’t really something about them at all. You don’t like them because of something in you, not them.

And the opposite is also true. People can give their love to another person, and then still love that person, even when given absolutely no reason to do so. They love because of something inside of them, not in the other person.

So, whether you look at God’s children and see much to despise, or much to love, is a reflection of what is going on inside of you.